So this guy I know…wait, “these guys” I know (because it was actually a story that I have heard from numerous men open enough to share honest thoughts) have confided in me that while they are not completely satisfied at home, they will never leave their wives. (I didn’t say their names!) Why? Because their fathers left their families and they never want to abandon their own family. They never want to leave their children.

So, their brilliant plan is to wait until the children are grown. When they are older, they will understand and it will have less of an impact. Okay, first of all, BULLSHIT.

AND here is the problem with that plan! Not only are the children older, the wife is older. And the sad statistic is that the older she is, the fewer options she has! Meanwhile, he is older and still chasing and catching women ten or more years younger. She, on the other hand, has become an unpaid sommelier. (Google it)

Many men, coming from broken homes don’t want to repeat the behavior of their fathers. A large percentage probably also believed they would be sexually satisfied with their significant others for the duration. Highly unlikely.

Unfortunately, as in most relationships, the frequency of sex begins to decline and in many cases, disappears altogether. The relationship may enter a boring monotonous phase from which some never recover. He won’t leave, but he will cheat. Now, I’m not a man, so I don’t know this firsthand and it may very well apply to both sexes, but I’m told that after you cheat once, it becomes easier. It’s viewed, as a necessity to have their sexual desires met and purely sexual and physical. There is absolutely no emotional attachment………..well, until there is.

While I’ve repeatedly stated that I am not 100% sold on the idea that monogamy is natural, I do think that there are other choices to consider.

If you truly love one another, and I hope you do, I hope that rather than stick your head in the sand and give up on the relationship, that you will have an open and honest discussion.  You’ll hear me say this a lot!  (the power of suggestion)

That being said, I have one request. Stop waiting. If you are going to bail, BAIL! Don’t wait until she is old, her options are limited and her recycling bin is overflowing. You CAN be a good parent, without being a bad husband! Besides, may as well prepare the kids for real life rather than a fairytale.