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There are many causes of infidelity, but I feel pretty confident lack of sex plays a major role in most situations.

Infidelity has been around as long as marriage, we just seem to talk about it more. There are more books on the shelves at Barnes & Noble. Conversations used to be between us and close friends and family. Now we share our lives with the world via social media. The conversation is out in the open, along with a bunch of dirty drawers aired by angry spouses and lovers.

When we commit, settling down often means settling for. Sexless marriages are fine, so long as both parties have no interest in sex, but when one does and the other doesn’t, it is highly likely infidelity is in their future.

It is said that at least 60% of marriages are sexless. While I believe that percentage might be much higher depending on how long a couple has been married (who wants to admit to that statistic?) I also believe those marriages aren’t exactly sexless. They just aren’t having sex with each other.

I can speak from experience here, and from numerous conversations with many women over the years, more often than not and for valid reasons (such as exhaustion from having a career and raising children, to hormonal issues). We are too tired. We are just not in the mood!

Sex Columnist Marisa Peer said it best and I can’t remember where I heard her say it, “You may never be in the mood! Just f#ck#ng do it! Get the party started and you’ll get in the mood!”  Do it! The mood will come.

I also can’t remember if it was Marisa or Esther Perel (I’m tired.  Luckily no one here to say that to.  hmmm  Actually, luckily might not be the right word…) that said, “Desire may be absent. Arousal may be absent, but willingness must always be there.”

Okay, not always, but you get the idea.

That being said, cheating is not always just about sex, however, the reality is that lack of sex is often the reason infidelity occurs.

There may be no such thing as “affair proofing” your relationship, but sex is a good start!

So as Marisa Peer said, “Just Do it!”