#The Knot
Ignorance is Bliss
My research for a new writing project led me to the magazine section of Barnes & Noble.
The very last rack was home to the “Women’s interest” section of magazines. I was doing some advertising research to see which companies advertised in which magazines, so I could familiarize myself with the products my target audience was likely to purchase.
In the women’s section, I found one magazine, @Essence Magazine geared toward African American women. I found @Oprah Magazine, geared to Oprah. There were a few fashion magazines with paper-thin 12 years olds made up to look like 21-year-olds gracing the covers and filled with stupidly expensive items every woman who feels the need to impress, should own! Of the maybe 20 other magazines in the section, 13 of them were bridal magazines. It appears that Barnes & Noble thinks that women are only interested in tying the knot, which by the way, was also the title of one of the magazines. “#The Knot!” Then again, maybe that’s all we are buying. Supply meets demand! Which of course brings me right back to my go-to topic, “#monogamy.”
Of course, you can’t leave the store without visiting the personal development section because who can say they can’t use a little further developing?
It was there that I discovered a book that every woman and man, for that fact, should read.
#Moody Bitches I kid you not! or Knot. “Moody Bitches” A fascinating and extremely informative book by Julie Holland, MD. The mysteries of present-day life, all answered in these 295 pages.
I zeroed in with laser-like focus on what else? Chapter 4 “Marriage and it’s discontent” In this chapter, Dr. Holland breaks down the chemistry of attraction and how it changes over time, transitioning to the chemistry of attachment. It explains how the lust factor dies and how testosterone levels in men drop after they have been “Tied up” for a year. Higher levels of testosterone can reduce attachment drive basically stating that a manly man might be good for a hit it and quit it, but less likely to commit. I’m paraphrasing but seriously, buy this book and actually read it. This was only one of the chapters. I have been unable to put it down.
“We are wired to connect and to need other people,” she states. In her study that included 90 countries, 90% of participants were likely to marry at least once by the age of 49. “In the US, we marry, divorce, and remarry at higher rates than ANY other country. It appears we are a country of serial monogamists.
The chapter goes on to explain what physically happens to our brains and bodies throughout #relationships. These are scientific evidence-based facts! You know like the global warming evidence certain folks choose to ignore. You know who you are.
My favorite section was entitled “The seven-year itch is real” The longer a couple stays together, the more likely sexual infidelity will occur. See, it’s not just me saying this shit! According to her research, the numbers increase around year 7. Her research also shows (although it’s not exactly rocket science) that high-risk times are usually during pregnancy and the months following the birth. Hmmmm, I wonder why? New dads testosterone actually diminishes. I said, “Diminish,” not disappear.
SO, if they aren’t getting any and their needs for attention and sex go ignored, guess what?
So, go ahead and tie that knot. But, read her book first so you can do so with an educated and open mind. And you might want to pay particular attention to Chapter 4 especially if you plan to have children right away or ever!
The book is a bible for women and a must read for any man planning to marry one! Many a mystery was solved for me reading the book. The #infidelity information wasn’t exactly new, but I definitely have a better understanding of why it occurs.
Don’t take my word. Science once again has spoken. The seas are rising and so is the likelihood of infidelity, so pay attention………to him!
Moblogamy 
One Response to “#The Knot”
Looks intriguing. 🙂 Not only am I interested as a currently, um…moody person 😂 but I have research interests for other reasons too. Thanks for the tip!
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